tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post1714318085239987122..comments2023-11-03T06:56:05.537-07:00Comments on 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There): The Perfection of ImperfectionGalen Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-48392297413080880022011-07-31T21:40:24.947-07:002011-07-31T21:40:24.947-07:00A belated thank you to Sandra, Evelyn, and Patrici...A belated thank you to Sandra, Evelyn, and Patricia for your comments. I apologize for not responding promptly, especially when I appreciate your comments so much!<br /><br />Sandra--I'm glad this post was meaningful to you. We are so hard on ourselves! Like right now, I'm upset that I let these comments slip past me without responding.<br /><br />Evelyn--I wonder why that is. I can remember one bad student evaluations more vividly than I can remember hundreds of glowing ones. We must be wired that way, but with effort we can build more positive habits.<br /><br />Patricia--Pema Chodron is one of my favorites teachers. Those perfectionist standards can be so deeply internalized as children. Very hard to break free of, but it can be done.<br /><br />Clingspiration--Wow. I bet if we did a survey of spelling bee contestants decades later, we would find this to be true. Well, I bet you never misspelled fiduciary again!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-9149631780316025642011-07-31T17:57:05.392-07:002011-07-31T17:57:05.392-07:00It's so true... mistakes stay with us for year...It's so true... mistakes stay with us for years, even when it's best to just let go.<br /><br />I remember misspelling "fiduciary" in a spelling bee, many years ago. I've also won a couple of spelling bees - but the funny thing is, I don't remember the words I won them with.Clingspirationhttp://clingspiration.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-18972548309627513652011-06-09T19:08:06.785-07:002011-06-09T19:08:06.785-07:00you have such a lovely way with words...I grew up ...you have such a lovely way with words...I grew up with perfectionists and one child and my partner are perfectionists. I am not though I wasted precious time in my life trying to meet their standards. I feel judged many moments in my life, and am learning to laugh about it in my mature moments...<br />I loved Pema Chordon's book<br /><br />Hope you are doing wellPatriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00649391137077220495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-57124513286320467262011-06-08T19:53:41.018-07:002011-06-08T19:53:41.018-07:00In therapy, we learn to acknowledge that what has ...In therapy, we learn to acknowledge that what has happened has happened but we remove the intense emotion from the past memory. We are able to view our situation with more objectivity and much less pain. Our mind also has a tendency to forget about the one bad thing that happened in our lives and forget about the other 99 things that have happened well. <br /><br />Your article is a wonderful reminder that we are already perfect as we are - even for all the imperfections. Thanks for sharing!Evelyn Limhttp://www.abundancetapestry.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-42352636651660271682011-06-08T17:09:04.963-07:002011-06-08T17:09:04.963-07:00Galen,
You've really hit the target again wit...Galen,<br /><br />You've really hit the target again with this post! It all depends on where we place our attention, doesn't it? Our brain really encodes these difficult messages, but with encouragement like this, we can realize they are false messages and change our habits of perception as Pema says. I love the title of Rabbi Kushner's book. It's a great question. Thanks for reminding us to pay attention to the positive. This post really hit home for me.Sandra /Always Well Withinhttp://alwayswell.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-55274643325869519162011-06-08T16:19:58.804-07:002011-06-08T16:19:58.804-07:00Riley--That's so interesting! What is it abou...Riley--That's so interesting! What is it about spelling bees that is so traumatic?! I wonder whatever happened to Geneva! Perhaps she became a recluse in shame.<br /><br />darlin--Great attitude about imperfections. And thank you for the kind words. It is nice, isn't it, to have some of our life lessons affirmed from time to time!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-64566253754318172862011-06-08T12:35:11.941-07:002011-06-08T12:35:11.941-07:00My imperfections I call life lessons, if I can'...My imperfections I call life lessons, if I can't grow from them and learn the lesson I am to learn, then I have not grown as a human being. <br /><br />I love reading your posts, thank you. They remind me of what I've had to learn, or was meant to learn, and I appreciate revisiting my life lessons. This is an excellent consciousness awareness for me. I choose to look at how far I've come from what I didn't know back then, and I get to look forward to what I still have to learn! <br /><br /> Enjoy your day!darlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886502544010479581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-36123727273358191962011-06-08T10:53:14.158-07:002011-06-08T10:53:14.158-07:00Galen,
There seems to be a lot of trauma associate...Galen,<br />There seems to be a lot of trauma associated with childhood spelling bees. I can remember in the second grade when Geneva "my main man" on our spelling bee team was given the word ICE to spell for all the marbles (winner of the second grade spelling bee contest). She proudly pronounced the word ICE and then spelled it IEC. That was the of a beautiful relationship; I couldn't bring myself to to carry her lunch pail any more.<br />RileyRiley Harrisonhttp://www.getting-unstuck.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-62149819587964141422011-06-08T06:47:27.843-07:002011-06-08T06:47:27.843-07:00Kara--So glad that quote was meaningful to you. T...Kara--So glad that quote was meaningful to you. Thanks for your kind words.<br /><br />JJ--I wonder if remembering mistakes like this is linked to survival of the species! Why else would these things be so deeply embedded in our memories?<br /><br />LeAnn--Isn't it comforting to know that most all parents can relate?! Sorry you are still having comment trouble. I appreciate your extra effort!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-55163251167366493902011-06-07T12:44:15.170-07:002011-06-07T12:44:15.170-07:00I loved reading this post and I know just how you ...I loved reading this post and I know just how you feel. Especially, the mother part of remembering when I didn't do just what I should have done. I can really relate to this one. <br />Blessings to you!<br />Google is still not doing well with comments so I am anonymous today<br />Living Waters by LeAnn Http://lgwilliams.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-17501077290752683492011-06-07T11:44:31.547-07:002011-06-07T11:44:31.547-07:00That's funny. I remember spelling pleasant as ...That's funny. I remember spelling <i>pleasant</i> as <i>pleasent,</i> and my mother made such a huge deal out of it that every time I write the word, I review the incident in my mund.JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14692103477055483000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-4896646404880363302011-06-07T10:03:43.177-07:002011-06-07T10:03:43.177-07:00You never fail to give me (using Oprah's expre...You never fail to give me (using Oprah's expression) an Aha Moment. This time, it's "perception is a mirror, not a fact." Thank you!Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17044224027343776064noreply@blogger.com