tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post7195732439838245285..comments2023-11-03T06:56:05.537-07:00Comments on 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There): Radical ForgivenessGalen Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-22315335663091650092012-04-09T20:38:49.947-07:002012-04-09T20:38:49.947-07:00Evelyn, That's honest. I've found that th...Evelyn, That's honest. I've found that the biggest step is just being willing to consider forgiveness. That opens the door to taking further steps as we are ready, whenever that is. Thanks for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-47486219934795337862012-04-09T19:46:49.348-07:002012-04-09T19:46:49.348-07:00I cannot pretend that I no longer have memories th...I cannot pretend that I no longer have memories that still cause me to feel hurt. I have been "watching" myself as I review these memories. For these situations, I find that forgiveness is a peeling of layers. Of course, without these "hurts", I won't be where I am today. The shift in perspective helps. But I know that I have some way to go, before I have completely forgiven for these situations. I need to remember that I am the one who is hurting myself should I hold on to anger. <br /><br />You have provided a great example in your post. Thanks for sharing!Evelyn Limhttp://www.abundancetapestry.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-70502468901740317602012-04-04T08:28:42.836-07:002012-04-04T08:28:42.836-07:00Patricia, You last line is so important--to realiz...Patricia, You last line is so important--to realize that we do the best we can at the time. Thanks for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-45287794587118459652012-04-01T20:07:23.442-07:002012-04-01T20:07:23.442-07:00I can so easily capture forgiveness in my head and...I can so easily capture forgiveness in my head and I do so have to practicing freeing up my heart...turning around to how something benefits me is so crucial to achieving the release and flow <br /><br />I often tell teens that they need to feel depressed when at home or in a safe and secure spot...it is a lesson we all need to feel and learn because it is a great teacher and being skilled at it is important to survival and success. When they figure out they are supposed to experience this emotion and learn how to from it - there is so much relief<br /><br />I need to forgive myself right now actually - I did the best I knew how to do at the time and now I know a better way - I can forgive again <br />Thank you for sharingPatriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00649391137077220495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-15325712953213380842012-03-31T17:13:28.306-07:002012-03-31T17:13:28.306-07:00Betsy, Thank you! A Course in Miracles is full of...Betsy, Thank you! A Course in Miracles is full of good teaching about forgiveness.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-76130969548394014872012-03-31T16:33:50.598-07:002012-03-31T16:33:50.598-07:00Wonderful post Galen! I like the idea that it'...Wonderful post Galen! I like the idea that it's perception that helps you forgive. So true!!<br /><br />Love the course in miracles quote at the start!Betsy at Zen-Mamahttp://zen-mama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-59766078051799400862012-03-31T10:03:17.545-07:002012-03-31T10:03:17.545-07:00Cathy, I'm glad you like that line. In the re...Cathy, I'm glad you like that line. In the retreat I led, we identified the "pearl of joy" that each radical spiritual practice brought. I like that image, too. Thanks so much for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-57990504818279688892012-03-31T10:02:03.143-07:002012-03-31T10:02:03.143-07:00Nancy, Jesus was definitely a radical! Thanks for...Nancy, Jesus was definitely a radical! Thanks for reminding me to consider it all joy. I appreciate your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-53143496723382532102012-03-31T10:00:54.640-07:002012-03-31T10:00:54.640-07:00Cynthia, You are right that forgiveness helps us m...Cynthia, You are right that forgiveness helps us move forward, instead of being chained to the past. Thanks for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-31386395676932582132012-03-31T10:00:09.523-07:002012-03-31T10:00:09.523-07:00Nicole, Thank you for your kind words and for the ...Nicole, Thank you for your kind words and for the honoring me with an award! I really appreciate it!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-79318085661457662662012-03-30T23:12:58.464-07:002012-03-30T23:12:58.464-07:00Hi Galen,
"Forgiveness is transformed into t...Hi Galen,<br /><br />"Forgiveness is transformed into the pearl of gratitude" - what a beautiful line. Forgiveness can move us forward in life instead of remaining stuck. Your angle on radical forgiveness is interesting. That is definitely going one step further. I appreciate your thoughts on forgiveness. Well done.Cathy | Treatment Talkhttp://treatmenttalk.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-73333205476170196932012-03-30T15:58:17.610-07:002012-03-30T15:58:17.610-07:00My girlfriend and I were talking the other night a...My girlfriend and I were talking the other night about being radicals - thank you for giving me the info that it's the Latin word meaning root - makes sense.<br /><br />Like Jesus he was a radical in his time. I like the idea that ALL miracles are RADICAL for I believe in miracles and that must make me radical.<br /><br />I appreciate your post today for I believe in the words that you stated - joy and gratitude for not only the good things but in the bad times too - "consider it all joy".<br /><br />In gratitude,<br />NancyNancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08066884129974460069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-37211905605122914812012-03-30T13:12:03.210-07:002012-03-30T13:12:03.210-07:00Nice post and I am of thought that forgiveness hel...Nice post and I am of thought that forgiveness helps to move forward in life. It's hard, but we should for our own well-being.Cynthia Fox-Giddenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18311008272824624550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-61725601580066487812012-03-30T11:54:14.177-07:002012-03-30T11:54:14.177-07:00As usual, an amazingly powerful piece. I need to r...As usual, an amazingly powerful piece. I need to reread this a couple of times as it is tugging on something that has been itching at my soul as of late... Galen, thank you for your words of wisdom.<br /><br />For these and all of your words that reach me, I am honoring you with the KREATIV BLOGGER AWARD! Go to my blog to see your name in bright lights, then check out the rules for the award, which I've pasted below: The Kreativ Blogger award comes with the following rules: 1. You must thank the person who has given you the award. 2. Copy the logo and place it on your blog. 3. Link the person who has nominated you for the award. 4. Name 7 things about yourself that people might find interesting. 5. Nominate 7 other Kreativ Bloggers. 6. Post links to the 7 blogs you nominate. 7. Leave a comment on which of the blogs to let them know they have been nominated. http://www.riverarunsthroughit.com/2012/03/kreativ-blogger-award.htmlNVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17267219296647761938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-31486664475836721192012-03-30T09:45:01.834-07:002012-03-30T09:45:01.834-07:00Rhonda, That's a beautiful recognition, that f...Rhonda, That's a beautiful recognition, that forgiveness is a gift we receive when we stop trying to force things. Thanks for you comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-43605437883374274582012-03-30T09:44:04.859-07:002012-03-30T09:44:04.859-07:00Nikki, So true. When I'm holding onto a grudg...Nikki, So true. When I'm holding onto a grudge, it makes me even madder that the other person goes on with their life while I'm stewing in my misery! As they say, unforgiveness is like drinking rat poison hoping the rat will die!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-74002769475284944312012-03-30T09:41:42.226-07:002012-03-30T09:41:42.226-07:00Jean, You are very fortunate to be among those for...Jean, You are very fortunate to be among those for whom forgiveness comes naturally and easily. How do you think you learned this? Did your parents model this for you or did you come by it some other way?Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-13117924794292965412012-03-29T15:13:18.041-07:002012-03-29T15:13:18.041-07:00I think what is profound truth is what the LORD re...I think what is profound truth is what the LORD revealed to me this morning.....to reach for salvation we must let go of the struggle....to be free from the hurts of the past we must stop struggling for freedom but let it come to us ....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-42745439355607225492012-03-29T14:39:15.477-07:002012-03-29T14:39:15.477-07:00great post and something I've been working thr...great post and something I've been working through this week. I learned one thing....to hold onto anger and unforgiveness affects us more than the other person. Sometimes they don't even know or care but it can really take away so much from our lives. thanks for posting this message...Nikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-19312229923689500292012-03-29T13:24:44.978-07:002012-03-29T13:24:44.978-07:00All things must pass... and far too soon for my li...All things must pass... and far too soon for my liking sometimes LOL I've often thought I'd love to be able to hold a grudge... at least long enough for the person involved to [at least] know what they'd done. But somehow it's not in my genes. I let it go [grin] Thanks for the post Galen... always good to think about why we do the things we do/don't do.Jean Burmanhttp://jeanburman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-13741718032274783682012-03-29T11:51:43.453-07:002012-03-29T11:51:43.453-07:00Mikey, Your observation about everyone having been...Mikey, Your observation about everyone having been wounded unjustly reminded me of a Buddha story. A woman's only son died and she went to Buddha to ask him to bring her son back to life. Buddha said he would if she could bring him a grain of rice from one family that had never been visited by death. Of course, she couldn't, so she returned to Buddha and became his disciple. <br /><br />Thanks for your reference to scripture as wisdom literature. I agree that it can be used by those that adhere to it as a weapon, and by those who don't as something to be rejected in totality. There is so much beauty in so many faith writings. Thanks for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-38148898193362028922012-03-29T11:45:42.120-07:002012-03-29T11:45:42.120-07:00Vidya, I like your T chart method, too. I can see...Vidya, I like your T chart method, too. I can see how that would be very helpful. As someone said above this is a practice, because you described it perfectly--the things that come back to hurt and haunt. Thank you for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-18438032412880287752012-03-29T11:44:01.370-07:002012-03-29T11:44:01.370-07:00Bob, There are amazing models of forgiveness for u...Bob, There are amazing models of forgiveness for us, and Joseph is one of the best. Talk about therapeutic issues! I'm not sure I would have been so gracious! And yet, he is the perfect example of transforming bad to good. Thank you for your insightful comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-8778282766406579532012-03-29T11:41:12.943-07:002012-03-29T11:41:12.943-07:00sheila, The word practice jumped out at me from yo...sheila, The word practice jumped out at me from your comment. It's true. These are things we have to practice...repeatedly! Glad you liked that line. Thanks for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-67923929473251382472012-03-29T09:51:12.448-07:002012-03-29T09:51:12.448-07:00I think probably everyone has been wounded unjustl...I think probably everyone has been wounded unjustly. Learning to accept that we all act improperly at times helps free us from the self-imposed shackles of blaming and grudge-holding. I always love returning to forgiveness as a topic. It's such a key component of the psychological healing process. <br /><br />Your exegesis is very useful and appropriate, Galen. I often wish more thoughtful people used scripture as wisdom literature, instead of as a weapon or a way to control the oppressed. I'm working to forgive them.Invisible Mikeyhttp://invisiblemikey.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com