tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post7700405600212895670..comments2023-11-03T06:56:05.537-07:00Comments on 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There): Giving by AskingGalen Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-35519744232964748422011-08-28T12:39:24.065-07:002011-08-28T12:39:24.065-07:00Vishnu--Interesting observation about the double s...Vishnu--Interesting observation about the double standard many of us have. If you try out the shortcut, let me know if it's helpful. Thanks for commenting.<br /><br />Toyin--An honest cost/benefit analysis will often help to make that clear. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />Angela--Yes, it does take two. Sometimes it's hard to see our part in the dance. Thank you for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-933807634523603382011-08-26T08:58:45.725-07:002011-08-26T08:58:45.725-07:00Hi Galen,
Great post. We do need to look a bit fur...Hi Galen,<br />Great post. We do need to look a bit further when we forgive don't we? We need to accept our role in creating the negative situation as well. Terrific advice. It does take two to tango, right?Angela Artemis/Powered by Intuitionhttp://www.poweredbyintuition.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-47756678049604091392011-08-26T08:03:24.848-07:002011-08-26T08:03:24.848-07:00This is so true; I think it makes it easier to for...This is so true; I think it makes it easier to forgive someone if your realize the danger of the bitterness and anger that come from not forgiving them. Thanks for sharing.Toyin O.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08429675861306256504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-50969623309424102822011-08-26T02:35:31.853-07:002011-08-26T02:35:31.853-07:00A good way of helping to change our perspective Ga...A good way of helping to change our perspective Galen. Forgiving others is so hard. but we always wonder, why can't someone else simply forgive us? double standard? <br /><br />i'm going to try out your suggested shortcut:)Vishnuhttp://www.vishnusvirtues.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-73907180452873963752011-08-25T17:04:42.051-07:002011-08-25T17:04:42.051-07:00Average Girl--Well, in the sense that "if I c...Average Girl--Well, in the sense that "if I can do it, you know you can," I hope it is inspiring! Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />LeAnn--Family dynamics are the most challenging, I think. I hope your daughters in law can reach a place of peace or at least a civil truce. Thank you for sharing this and I hope things get better.<br /><br />ryoko--Thanks for sharing a different perspective. I know sometimes I have felt empowered by anger, and when it works in the way you describe, I agree that it can be helpful. For me, acknowledging my own thoughts, words, actions was a step I needed to take at that time. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />Danny--I just read something about looking for the gift in every situation. Sounds like that is exactly what you did, with immediate success. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />JJ--I completely agree. I hope that acknowledging my own responsibility does not make me a doormat! Thanks for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-64841323498186646492011-08-25T16:46:30.384-07:002011-08-25T16:46:30.384-07:00Galen: I am all for forgiveness. I am equally agai...Galen: I am all for forgiveness. I am equally against anyone becoming a doormat. It's tough to find the balance.JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14692103477055483000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-65904471793506003832011-08-25T16:26:42.311-07:002011-08-25T16:26:42.311-07:00Hi Galen, after all else failed (therapy, trying t...Hi Galen, after all else failed (therapy, trying to understand, knowing I had to let it go for my own health etc.) what really helped me to forgive a very powerful business partner whom I felt had betrayed me was when a friend asked me if I had benefited from the relationship. At first I was perplexed by his question, but once I was able to focus on how much I had gained from this person, my bitterness left almost over night. <br /><br />DannyDanny Millerhttp://www.losingcontrolfindingserenity.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-52645037321420907472011-08-25T13:44:23.358-07:002011-08-25T13:44:23.358-07:00If someone caused me that much pain and anxiety li...If someone caused me that much pain and anxiety like Fred did, I know I wouldn't ask for forgiveness in my heart. Letting go of the situation is important and moving on. But if someone did wrong by me, nope, no asking for forgiveness. Sometimes that anger makes me a better person and I'll learn from it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-6290986641636590832011-08-25T13:25:07.192-07:002011-08-25T13:25:07.192-07:00This was a great post. I think forgiving others fo...This was a great post. I think forgiving others for offenses and learning to forgive ourselves for our part in the situation. Right now I have two daugher in laws that dislike the other daughter in law; who feel has a mental problem. <br />It has caused a lt of contention in our family. None of them want to be around each other. I <br />Your thoughts were awesome and helped me think of ways I might can help them all work through the problems. <br />Blessings to you!LeAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18107717294803352571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-38166357786691821312011-08-25T13:05:24.091-07:002011-08-25T13:05:24.091-07:00I love your thought process Galen.. and all that y...I love your thought process Galen.. and all that you do to improve your inner happiness! It really is inspiring you know!Average Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05171277050030497007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-41080190746956545102011-08-25T12:00:46.511-07:002011-08-25T12:00:46.511-07:00Manzanita--Always a good reminder about those fing...Manzanita--Always a good reminder about those fingers pointing back! Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />Patricia--Thank you so much for sharing some of your story here. It sounds like you have put some very healing practices in use. Thank you for commenting.<br /><br />Jo--I think many of us can relate to this sort of scenario. It seems to be part of life! So glad it was timely. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />darlin--Thanks for the kind words and your comment.<br /><br />Cynthia--Yes, forgiveness seems to be central to any kind of deep, lasting happiness. Thanks for commenting.<br /><br />Riley--I understand. It's a burden to be right all the time! Ha! Great quote and so true. Thanks for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-12614381547984206692011-08-25T08:24:13.712-07:002011-08-25T08:24:13.712-07:00Hi Galen,
I am very judgemental person and often s...Hi Galen,<br />I am very judgemental person and often suffer angst when others don't see it my way. This saying always softens view towards others and their alleged<br />transgressions: Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle - Goethe.<br />RileyRiley Harrisonhttp://www.getting-unstuck.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-21792491597407281802011-08-25T07:52:14.156-07:002011-08-25T07:52:14.156-07:00I like your post and sure gives thoughts on the im...I like your post and sure gives thoughts on the importance of forgiveness in our lives.Cynthia Fox-Giddenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18311008272824624550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-3665947398435260372011-08-25T00:27:32.889-07:002011-08-25T00:27:32.889-07:00Amen! You've hit the nail right on the head, s...Amen! You've hit the nail right on the head, so to speak. Another amazing post regarding forgiveness.darlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886502544010479581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-32438413166870047142011-08-24T17:53:15.492-07:002011-08-24T17:53:15.492-07:00Oh Galen.....this post is right on the money today...Oh Galen.....this post is right on the money today. Your situation is so much in line with a situation that I have had to deal with the last year or so<br />you shared this solution.......PERFECTLY!<br /><br />xo<br /><br />JoMy Grama's Soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114089036939629527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-28007524501829543432011-08-24T15:24:51.102-07:002011-08-24T15:24:51.102-07:00Lovely writing again here today - Thank you
When I...Lovely writing again here today - Thank you<br />When I was a child I thought and spoke like a child - I was constantly defending myself against M's abuse against me - As I grew older, I understood her needs and concerns - I no longer played her weakness to get relief. I have forgiven M so many times and then it bubbles up in some new way. If M moved here in her retirement my whole family was prepared to change locations even if that meant selling our firm - no lie.<br />I found I could only communicate with her through a gentle spoken lawyer fellow...we actually communicated..(He died )<br />I have forgiven her again, and I still do not want any contact.<br />I have forgiven myself, but apparently not, because I feel like my weight and money issues are still tied to protecting myself from people like M in my life.<br />I am afraid to let go...so after reading your post, I decided to write M a letter offering up all the asking of forgiveness I can put forth - but I think I will not mail this letter, but rather use it as a meditation to higher selves in my next acupuncture session. I hope this will be healing for all?Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00649391137077220495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-52400704566661564912011-08-24T11:55:14.247-07:002011-08-24T11:55:14.247-07:00That is such a great post, Galen. It is so difficu...That is such a great post, Galen. It is so difficult to see our part in any situation where we believe we have been wronged. It's so easy to blame and point fingers. Remember the 3 pointing back at us and forgive. Splendid.<br /><a href="http://beajayblock.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Manzanita@Wannabuyaduck</a>Manzanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06467261212623663365noreply@blogger.com