tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post1712115288387768987..comments2023-11-03T06:56:05.537-07:00Comments on 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There): The Circle with No ExitGalen Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-84303706083900523772013-02-05T13:58:48.751-08:002013-02-05T13:58:48.751-08:00Oh my I know that circle all to well. great post, ...Oh my I know that circle all to well. great post, just what I needed to hear today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-71292291049793000052013-02-01T11:09:52.521-08:002013-02-01T11:09:52.521-08:00Beth, Glad to have your company!Beth, Glad to have your company!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-75211117224219461672013-02-01T09:12:06.420-08:002013-02-01T09:12:06.420-08:00As usual, my friend, your words are cause to pause...As usual, my friend, your words are cause to pause. Thank you for the transparency of bringing your dilemma to your readers; it is helpful to know there are fellow sufferers out there! It's good to be reminded that the pieces of my life that seem broken are not . . . they are growth opportunities waiting for the perfect time to burst through the hardened ground that is often my own obstinant refusal to let go.<br /><br />Here's to bustin' through together!Beth W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11557597970305739844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-20094952681553967692013-02-01T07:36:08.987-08:002013-02-01T07:36:08.987-08:00LeAnn, Social media communication is a two edged s...LeAnn, Social media communication is a two edged sword, isn't it? There is something about online communication that lowers our thought process--we will say things that we would probably not say in person. Also, things are more easily misunderstood. And it's more public. I'm not sure that "social" media is all that social sometimes. I'm sorry for your family situation, and I hope time will heal.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-85092286470140671562013-02-01T07:32:54.433-08:002013-02-01T07:32:54.433-08:00Cathy, That is a perfect example (and a sad one) o...Cathy, That is a perfect example (and a sad one) of exactly what I was trying to say. I appreciate how you are sharing that "better way" on your blog.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-9836183844092232172013-02-01T07:31:49.673-08:002013-02-01T07:31:49.673-08:00Jodi, Painful in your cells--that's a powerful...Jodi, Painful in your cells--that's a powerful image. And it reinforces that our view of a situation affects our whole being. Breathing into it. I'm doing a lot of that!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-86619741693358456562013-02-01T07:30:40.268-08:002013-02-01T07:30:40.268-08:00Patricia, Yes, I'm learning a lot from my word...Patricia, Yes, I'm learning a lot from my word...and the year is still young! Thanks for sharing the Wise Ears quote--perfect.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-25326176987683867402013-02-01T07:29:40.737-08:002013-02-01T07:29:40.737-08:00Jennifer, Thanks for sharing your thoughts here, a...Jennifer, Thanks for sharing your thoughts here, and for the encouraging words. I had not thought about it in terms of personality types, but that is helpful. I also think about our own spirit's journeys here, trusting that we are all on the journey we need to be on.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-85258189663134615382013-01-31T17:06:33.172-08:002013-01-31T17:06:33.172-08:00Wow, did I need to read this one today. In my fami...Wow, did I need to read this one today. In my family there is a volatile situation that got started on facebook. Luckily, I have them hidden so at least the war wasn't posted on my page. All I can say is it was awful and I want to fix it and I can't. No one can fix it and trying to make peace with it is difficult. Thanks you for your thoughts because I am looking at the situation in a different light. <br />Blessings to you for this one!LeAnnWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05105766487306558140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-44436096037839065532013-01-31T14:37:49.025-08:002013-01-31T14:37:49.025-08:00Hi Galen,
I love the term - a circle with no ex...Hi Galen,<br /><br />I love the term - a circle with no exit. It fits for so many situations. I would go round and round when I was struggling with my children's substance abuse. I couldn't understand why, since it was so obvious that I had the answers, and that they should listen to me. I realized after awhile that there had to be a better way. Thanks so sharing your story.Cathy Taughinbaughhttp://treatmenttalk.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-26722316887196288972013-01-31T08:29:51.616-08:002013-01-31T08:29:51.616-08:00Galen,
I too can get into this circular thinking a...Galen,<br />I too can get into this circular thinking and get nowhere with myself. It happened to me this week as well. I felt it painfully in my very cells. Old hurt, stubbornness. I tried to let the old story go and just allowed myself to feel without the old meaning. I just breathed into the tightness in my chest and eventually it passed. I never even acted on it (outwardly) and I am glad.:) Jodi @ Heal Nowhttp://www.healnowandforever.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-50446805763932596212013-01-30T21:12:34.739-08:002013-01-30T21:12:34.739-08:00Thinking about that WAIT word...from your writing....Thinking about that WAIT word...from your writing...then just dashed around all my filing mess to find this quote I used at Wise Ears..<br />"Imagine that every person in the world is enlightened but you. They are all your teachers, each doing just the right things to help you learn perfect patience; perfect wisdom, perfect compassion." Buddha<br /><br />It is measured in nanoseconds - this is true at least in my experience! But there is also the Positive use of force within Nonviolent Compassionate Communication (Dr. Marshall Rosenberg) I received hours of this lesson when my youngest was in high school...I could not have made it through with out our mediator - guide. A true gift to our future. The fear was driven by the possibility of her death or violence against her Patriciahttp://www.patriciaswisdom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-34911793344186239722013-01-30T20:15:27.168-08:002013-01-30T20:15:27.168-08:00I certainly know what you're saying here. For ...I certainly know what you're saying here. For me, learning about various different personality types has been greatly helpful in increasing tolerance and empathy for other people's points of view. <br /><br />I've kind of stopped expecting people to think like me, even though as you point out, I sometimes wish they did. But I suppose that would be boring in the end, and we wouldn't learn much of anything, which is the reason we come here in the first place. <br /><br />Without a little struggle there would be no gain. I'm not at all surprised to see that you grasp that too. Good for you! Keep calm and carry on. :-)Jennifer Flint ~ The Aura Readerhttp://theaurareader.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-76560281101740777142013-01-30T19:35:42.588-08:002013-01-30T19:35:42.588-08:00Kaylin, Your name links to your profile, but your ...Kaylin, Your name links to your profile, but your profile does not link to your blog, if you have one. If you do, you might want to change that so that readers can find your blog through your comments on other blogs. I would love to read your blog if you will send the link.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-75049857612087067912013-01-30T18:48:20.551-08:002013-01-30T18:48:20.551-08:00Annmarie, Good advice!Annmarie, Good advice!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-62399151697637429892013-01-30T18:48:01.714-08:002013-01-30T18:48:01.714-08:00Kaylin, Me, too! I used to think I was fearless be...Kaylin, Me, too! I used to think I was fearless because I did bold and adventurous things. When a friend told me that I was driven by fear I thought she was full of baloney. I came to realize that she knew me better than I knew myself. I worked hard, like you, to change that and deal with my root fears so that I could live in joy instead of fear. But the fear sneaks back in sometimes, doesn't it? I need frequent reminders myself.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-18126587232767425722013-01-30T18:45:43.331-08:002013-01-30T18:45:43.331-08:00Kathy, I think you didn't see your comment rig...Kathy, I think you didn't see your comment right away and thought it didn't go through. I have comment moderation so it did. But since you rewrote this in a slightly different way, I published both comments because I think they are both valuable. Thank you.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-24186181875595141112013-01-30T18:44:37.017-08:002013-01-30T18:44:37.017-08:00Kathy, Your point is well taken, and I need to thi...Kathy, Your point is well taken, and I need to think about what boundaries/barriers I have erected myself. Thank you.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-57426138765840832622013-01-30T18:43:32.511-08:002013-01-30T18:43:32.511-08:00Linda, What a great approach! Maybe I could call y...Linda, What a great approach! Maybe I could call you and tell you the story and you could tell me what part I played! I'm kidding about calling you, but I'm not kidding about using this technique. Thank you!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-18479538885253665532013-01-30T18:24:19.986-08:002013-01-30T18:24:19.986-08:00a priest once told me to take it to the manager......a priest once told me to take it to the manager...took the pressure off me and gave me a whole new outlook. good luck!!momto8https://www.blogger.com/profile/13964950285763339907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-83257203733736565002013-01-30T18:12:34.191-08:002013-01-30T18:12:34.191-08:00What a great post! Over these past few years, I fi...What a great post! Over these past few years, I find myself focusing more and more on feeling and investigating my fears. Once I felt like I was completely fearless and the I realized I was living a life full of fear. Working toward focusing on living with less fear and expectations has helped me minimize the resentment that plagued me for years and years (and still does at times). Its amazing how easy it is to fall into the circle of resentment. I continue to work on viewing the difficult times and people in my life with gratitude and acceptance. Thank you for the reminder. Kaylin Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13745278915687653929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-39300679860891032442013-01-30T17:01:35.320-08:002013-01-30T17:01:35.320-08:00I loved this post and can identify with it entirel...I loved this post and can identify with it entirely. Sometimes the very barrier I think is preventing me from resolving the issue is a boundary I imposed, perhaps even unwittingly.<br />I also have learned that you can perceive a problem much differently when you refuse to give it permission to hoard your thoughts, but you already seem to have discovered that. Love the analogy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10322380382324189273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-7346853011593877602013-01-30T16:59:31.383-08:002013-01-30T16:59:31.383-08:00I get this entirely. I actually have to remind mys...I get this entirely. I actually have to remind myself at times that I might be the one who introduces the boundary between those who are problematic and me and then I think it is a barrier I can't overcome. I loved the post and analogy, Galen and one thing I have learned is a problem is perceived differently when we stop giving it permission to control our thoughts. You seem to have recognized this without my saying it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10322380382324189273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-48095533294646810222013-01-30T11:01:37.438-08:002013-01-30T11:01:37.438-08:00An episode with a friend last weekend had me resen...An episode with a friend last weekend had me resentful. She's been doing the same thing for 40 years and I want her to stop it. I called my sister and said, "I'm going to tell you a story and I want you to tell me what part I played." I did and she did. Turns out I wasn't taking care of myself. We talked about what I should do next time and I will. After that, the resentment was gone.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-92060043527863387292013-01-30T10:09:29.675-08:002013-01-30T10:09:29.675-08:00SuZen, Blessings to you in this time of challengin...SuZen, Blessings to you in this time of challenging transition. I've been there, too, trying to change someone else so that I will feel all right about the relationship. Aiming for compassion is a wonderful approach, including compassion for yourself, of course. (Love the Twilight Zone analogy!)Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.com