tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post3840347820276808592..comments2023-11-03T06:56:05.537-07:00Comments on 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There): The Illusion of ControlGalen Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-82551122255046531202012-04-10T13:23:36.297-07:002012-04-10T13:23:36.297-07:00Just ran across this quote. "Enlightenment i...Just ran across this quote. "Enlightenment is the ego's ultimate disappointment." Chogyam TrungpaGalen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-49777541008737882242012-04-09T21:14:03.205-07:002012-04-09T21:14:03.205-07:00Bob and Jean, So glad you met each other here!Bob and Jean, So glad you met each other here!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-45825952642717752102012-04-09T21:12:52.384-07:002012-04-09T21:12:52.384-07:00Debbie, You are already an expert on living in you...Debbie, You are already an expert on living in your happy place!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-27781184105336317492012-04-09T21:11:41.482-07:002012-04-09T21:11:41.482-07:00Ha, no kidding! Actually, I have been going throu...Ha, no kidding! Actually, I have been going through A Course in Miracles again this year, which is very much about shifting away from an ego driven life.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-41699524885681806392012-04-09T21:10:12.516-07:002012-04-09T21:10:12.516-07:00Vidya, I'm with Bob--love the DIY happiness pr...Vidya, I'm with Bob--love the DIY happiness project.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-91597150393913184482012-04-09T21:09:26.780-07:002012-04-09T21:09:26.780-07:00For me the first thing to learn was to be aware of...For me the first thing to learn was to be aware of my own responses. Then I could learn how to change them.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-7581500817717915762012-04-09T15:48:39.350-07:002012-04-09T15:48:39.350-07:00One of the reasons I spend a fair amount of time i...One of the reasons I spend a fair amount of time involved in prison ministry is a belief in working for the good of something beyond self. I have very little control over what these fellows eventually do with their life. I just have to give it my best shot and realize I can't control the outcome. <br /><br />Thanks, Jean. I just popped over to your blog. I think I may have found something new to read! I'm liking what I see.Bob Lowryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843991725692979189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-4046428667560623372012-04-09T13:13:55.658-07:002012-04-09T13:13:55.658-07:00Thanks Bob... lovely to meet you :-) I think it he...Thanks Bob... lovely to meet you :-) I think it helps to have a belief in something bigger than ourselves... and a grand master plan that encompasses pretty much everything. Faith [and I'm not necessarily talking about the religious kind] but faith in our selves and our world and other people in it... the relaxing of control and the subletting of that control over to the divine presence that has got us this far... [albeit not without some measure of struggle and pain] but still... we're here aren't we. We made it [this far]. And that's got to be a good thing LOL Great topic Bob. Thank you.Jean Burmanhttp://jeanburman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-47553064768738000822012-04-09T09:38:47.281-07:002012-04-09T09:38:47.281-07:00Thanks, Debbie. Your kind comments bring happiness...Thanks, Debbie. Your kind comments bring happiness...see how easy that was!Bob Lowryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843991725692979189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-12186927474646913442012-04-09T07:17:58.790-07:002012-04-09T07:17:58.790-07:00Great post Bob. I always say, "God grant me ...Great post Bob. I always say, "God grant me the wisdom to know what I can control and turn over to you what I have no control over."<br /><br />I agree, our attitude is the most important. When things come down the highway sometimes we have move over and let them by and other times we need to exit the highway until the dust has settled.<br />Thank you for the words of wisdom. Using these words we can always find that happy place in every day.<br />Blessings to you both,<br />DebbieDebbie Happy makerhttp://www.happymakernow.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-85341297760634664002012-04-09T07:10:17.077-07:002012-04-09T07:10:17.077-07:00The ego is a force that probably deserves its own ...The ego is a force that probably deserves its own series of posts...Galen?Bob Lowryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843991725692979189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-49346850451281478812012-04-09T07:08:11.505-07:002012-04-09T07:08:11.505-07:00"Happiness is my favorite DIY project." ..."Happiness is my favorite DIY project." I love that image. It really is a work in progress isn't it. Thank you, Vidya.Bob Lowryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843991725692979189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-14220493211962584262012-04-09T07:05:02.357-07:002012-04-09T07:05:02.357-07:00Absolutely, we have total control over how we resp...Absolutely, we have total control over how we respond. But it takes maturity and work to exercise that control.Bob Lowryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843991725692979189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-25803832420987690812012-04-09T06:30:03.017-07:002012-04-09T06:30:03.017-07:00I forget all that the time I that control is an il...I forget all that the time I that control is an illusion. Just ask my ego! Nice post Bob.Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09098773892466782284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-19211407998122982872012-04-09T05:28:46.837-07:002012-04-09T05:28:46.837-07:00I completely agree with "can't control ot...I completely agree with "can't control other people" and believe in breaking major problems into bite-sized pieces. Happiness is my favorite DIY project. I loved this post, Galen. And thank you, Bob. What a pleasure to read your tips! I've followed Bob's links on Twitter and enjoyed his recommendations. Looking forward to being connected, Bob!!<br /><br />Thanks again, Galen!Vidya Suryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12911836541019511108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-87622509487358616602012-04-09T03:55:32.373-07:002012-04-09T03:55:32.373-07:00We have total control over how we respond and this...We have total control over how we respond and this control make much more difference than what happens to us.Heal Now and Foreverhttp://www.healnowandforever.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-48972277176966323142012-04-08T16:56:17.921-07:002012-04-08T16:56:17.921-07:00Linda, So true, so true. Like one of my favorite...Linda, So true, so true. Like one of my favorite sayings, "When you're getting run out of town, get in front and make it look like a parade! Thanks for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-22235441744902835782012-04-08T16:55:19.107-07:002012-04-08T16:55:19.107-07:00Well said--you can't control their controlling...Well said--you can't control their controlling. I'm going to remember that, and probably repeat it! Thanks for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-77888202500317686622012-04-08T16:54:21.445-07:002012-04-08T16:54:21.445-07:00Harleena, So glad you stopped by and read Bob'...Harleena, So glad you stopped by and read Bob's excellent article. I look forward to reading more on your blog.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-70856277173385629632012-04-08T16:53:04.855-07:002012-04-08T16:53:04.855-07:00Evelyn, You comment complements Bob's article ...Evelyn, You comment complements Bob's article so nicely. There is a balance between being responsible for what we can do to bring about good outcomes, while at the same time recognizing that the actual outcomes are not within our control. Thanks for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-25351289218213725592012-04-08T16:51:10.699-07:002012-04-08T16:51:10.699-07:00Jo, I can see that Arizona is where the cool peopl...Jo, I can see that Arizona is where the cool people hang out! Thanks for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-56328682251745246702012-04-08T16:50:11.138-07:002012-04-08T16:50:11.138-07:00JJ, You will enjoy Bob's blog.
Bob, Thanks f...JJ, You will enjoy Bob's blog. <br />Bob, Thanks for the kind words.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-13646686169692071382012-04-08T11:52:43.994-07:002012-04-08T11:52:43.994-07:00Your recent trip to Ecuador is a good example of p...Your recent trip to Ecuador is a good example of putting yourself in a situation where you knew you would be out of control for awhile. Living in a foreign house, in a foreign country, trying to communicate in a foreign language = lack of control. Good for you.Bob Lowryhttp://satisfyingretirement.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-5764019232533859652012-04-08T10:29:35.945-07:002012-04-08T10:29:35.945-07:00The life changers for me - for better and for wors...The life changers for me - for better and for worse - have been the things I can't control. Might as well let go and enjoy whatever comes along!Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-66379871757316292722012-04-08T10:00:27.573-07:002012-04-08T10:00:27.573-07:00Your wisdom in handling the relational tension is ...Your wisdom in handling the relational tension is to be applauded. I have struggled with being a controlling person all my life. Only through my faith and the love of a good woman (my wife!) have I been slowly able to get this tendency in check. But, it will be a life-long struggle.Bob Lowryhttp://satisfyingretirement.comnoreply@blogger.com