tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post6109148801577642601..comments2023-11-03T06:56:05.537-07:00Comments on 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There): Kindness PaysGalen Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-16029399462483166392011-05-20T05:02:36.554-07:002011-05-20T05:02:36.554-07:00Hmmm...very good idea of making friends out of two...Hmmm...very good idea of making friends out of two young fighting-cocks…I’m seeing now that there’s just a lack of motivation of 2 people that don’t get along…I didn’t see it this way before. If I ever have kids in the future who don’t get along very well, I’ll know what to do.;) Thanks for sharing.Shardahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01310960503614640186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-70532579984357598402011-05-11T12:45:32.457-07:002011-05-11T12:45:32.457-07:00I guess my reply was too long...you are very perce...I guess my reply was too long...you are very perceptive Galen...I was abused by a sibling most of my life and I have had very poor boundaries for a long time as a result.<br /><br />I absorb peoples emotions all the time...and am working with someone now to learn how to control this energy problem.<br /><br />Teaching Emotional IQ was a very great teacher for me...we often teach what we need to learn!Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00649391137077220495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-59186640760900515192011-05-10T16:24:01.657-07:002011-05-10T16:24:01.657-07:00Riley--Thank you for sharing that quote. We reall...Riley--Thank you for sharing that quote. We really don't know what someone else is going through. It's helpful to remember that.<br /><br />Patricia--Your last few comments suggest that you are going through a difficult time, or that you have in the past. It sounds like you believe that people have taken advantage of you because of your kindness. It is hard sometimes to distinguish between kindness and good boundaries. I know I've had trouble with that in the past. I appreciate your sharing your perspective.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-21716018463659648832011-05-10T11:04:52.901-07:002011-05-10T11:04:52.901-07:00Maybe because I have been so KIND over my lifetime...Maybe because I have been so KIND over my lifetime is why I have no money? My motto should be kindness leaves one broke! <br /><br />I would play a game with my sister, I would just listen and nod...as she attempt constant control - her attacks have continued for low these 60 years. Finally when she turned me over to Adult Protective Services and made felony charges - I hired a lawyer for her to talk to and I no longer listened to her. It was expensive but kind. <br /><br />I think the secret in your story is that both girls had a lovely parent who was willing to help them figure IT out...not making the situation a larger competition for you affection and attention.<br /><br />Thank you for sharingPatriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00649391137077220495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-17583785367248309462011-05-10T10:54:37.301-07:002011-05-10T10:54:37.301-07:00Hello Galen,
I'm a very pragmatic kind of guy ...Hello Galen,<br />I'm a very pragmatic kind of guy and I say whatever works to initiate behavioral change. Kindness isn't my strong suit but here is a quote that helps me get it - "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle". Goethe<br /><br />RileyRiley Harrisonhttp://www.getting-unstuck.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-32726587472653887912011-05-09T21:33:19.415-07:002011-05-09T21:33:19.415-07:00Chrissy--I think the reason it worked for Grace an...Chrissy--I think the reason it worked for Grace and Mia was that it simply broke their pattern. I have found in my own life that sometimes I've been able to change someone's negative attitude with a smile or a kind word.<br /><br />JackSamMum--Perhaps after you beat the c--p out of this insensitive person, you could smile sweetly and say, "Have a nice day." I'm joking, but I'm not making light of your experience. I'm sorry that happened to you. Don't worry about whether you were kind to him. Be kind to yourself.<br /><br />JJ--No, you won't lose your dollar for already being nice. This wisdom was born out of the philosophy of desperation. I'm glad you find the willingness of an exasperated parent to pay for good behavior fascinating! Your comments always bring a smile!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-6249739599416726402011-05-09T18:26:38.468-07:002011-05-09T18:26:38.468-07:00Galen: What if I am already nice? Do I lose my dol...Galen: What if I am already nice? Do I lose my dollar? I really do await your philosophical response. I find the subject fascinating.JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14692103477055483000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-21445887811264328262011-05-09T18:20:05.883-07:002011-05-09T18:20:05.883-07:00Not feeling the love, Galen. I am trying but keep...Not feeling the love, Galen. I am trying but keep getting defeated by life right now. At CVS, trying to get calcium for Sam (see blog for details), I was told the pills were not for kids...fine, but what else is there? The pharmacist looked at me with distain and told me most kids don't need it because they drink milk and I should try it. You can imagine my response...given that my son does drink milk and gets more than his daily allowance of calcium already...could not for the life of me find a way to be positive to this man...sorry :(Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06880295170339104548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-91771092130703506372011-05-09T14:03:39.115-07:002011-05-09T14:03:39.115-07:00It is so hard to fake kindness - at least for me. ...It is so hard to fake kindness - at least for me. So I really respect someone who's able to do it. It's interesting to see how it changed Grace and Mia's relationship. Obviously it does work. I think I needed to read this today. Thank you.Christina Berryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00940473588497266871noreply@blogger.com