tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post6594152541079044108..comments2023-11-03T06:56:05.537-07:00Comments on 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There): Compliment RatioGalen Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-31120072753040551192012-01-16T13:26:32.756-08:002012-01-16T13:26:32.756-08:00Cathy, It takes so little effort to say something ...Cathy, It takes so little effort to say something nice, but I often let opportunities just slip right past me. This ratio is a good reminder to myself. And really, I'm not often cranky with others, either, so when I am, I'm very aware of it and I try to redirect that energy right away. Thanks for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-75446081522471209112012-01-16T13:24:50.756-08:002012-01-16T13:24:50.756-08:00Patricia, I hear you! Computer issues--aarrggh! ...Patricia, I hear you! Computer issues--aarrggh! Belly breathe! Thanks for helping with the tech issue. For now I'm ignoring it by using Google Chrome or Firefox.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-55711114677402234832012-01-16T13:23:31.862-08:002012-01-16T13:23:31.862-08:00Denise, I love the AA phrase about fake it till yo...Denise, I love the AA phrase about fake it till you make it. It really does work. Thanks for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-29265391606371025952012-01-16T13:22:46.958-08:002012-01-16T13:22:46.958-08:00Corinne, I do try to fess up when I mess up! Love...Corinne, I do try to fess up when I mess up! Love ya back!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-6519128523267472452012-01-16T12:59:41.094-08:002012-01-16T12:59:41.094-08:00Hi Galen,
I've heard of the 4:1 ration before...Hi Galen,<br /><br />I've heard of the 4:1 ration before and your post is a wonderful reminder. We get busy in our life and it is helpful to remember how important compliments can be. I'm not usually cranky with other people, but I also know that I need to hand out those compliments a little more often. I think many of us are in the middle ground. Your point is well taken. When we do reach out and compliment or help someone out it makes us feel good and we are just sending more positive vibes out into the world.Cathy | Treatment Talkhttp://treatmenttalk.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-63454723915507259492012-01-15T14:50:51.166-08:002012-01-15T14:50:51.166-08:004:1 ration is a great idea...I think it would be g...4:1 ration is a great idea...I think it would be good to calculate over a whole week...so this would wrap around the cranky day and the help at the store event.<br /><br />I am having an overwhelming day and my computer is still not working correctly so I am so worried about getting Wise Ears up and running for the new year....I decided I would just forewarn my partner, so he could enjoy the snowy day and not keep asking me for things he needed.<br /><br />Maybe this is a forward way to be positive...like stand clear! <br />Maybe I was just hoping he would fix dinner :)<br /><br />When I hear a young girl say something negative about her self or her body...I always reply...now you need to say 10 things you like about yourself. <br /><br />I sent your tech ? on to IT Girl, you may already have it sorted but I will see what she says too :)Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00649391137077220495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-19514112176921336432012-01-14T03:12:55.559-08:002012-01-14T03:12:55.559-08:00What a timely post Galen. I have been feeling so c...What a timely post Galen. I have been feeling so cranky within myself lately and I know that it is apparent to others through my attitude and negativity. Your thoughts and words have inspired me to commit to speaking positive kind words even if I am not feeling it on the inside. I will give this a try and somehow I already know that it will help uplift my mood at the same time.!<br />DeniseDenise from Beaded Embellishmentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07649322760875003695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-68424122165752857092012-01-14T00:40:42.593-08:002012-01-14T00:40:42.593-08:00Galen - I've found too that most times when I ...Galen - I've found too that most times when I approach people with a positive attitude they respond positively too. I was so inspired about how you called and apologized to someone for being a 'tiger'. I need to do that too, more often. Love ya!Corinne Rodrigueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00127426375705808776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-77761803695487582532012-01-13T12:10:00.974-08:002012-01-13T12:10:00.974-08:00Bob, I think IE has some glitches with the new Blo...Bob, I think IE has some glitches with the new Blogger comment format. I think this is great that we can now reply directly to comments. You are right that we can encourage more "Emilys" in the world by our own behavior. That begins with a smile. Thanks for your comment.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-20746352110788603702012-01-13T12:08:07.824-08:002012-01-13T12:08:07.824-08:00Look at this--I can now reply directly to your com...Look at this--I can now reply directly to your comment! Right now I'm blessing Blogger for adding this feature! Thanks for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-12368397608578734882012-01-13T09:52:06.254-08:002012-01-13T09:52:06.254-08:00FYI, (from your last post) I tried to leave a comm...FYI, (from your last post) I tried to leave a comment on this post using IE and it locked up. So, now I am on Chrome and no issues.<br /><br />Customer help like Emily are a joy to encounter. Like you, I will contact a manager if someone is particularly helpful or pleasant. Too often managers only hear the complaints.<br /><br />At the same time, I would bet there are more people like Emily but they haven't been encouraged or thanked. It is hard to keep a scowl on your face if someone is being genuinely pleasant. If we all followed your ratio we might find 4 times as many Emily's every day.Bob Lowryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843991725692979189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-38368167028427782192012-01-13T09:26:28.785-08:002012-01-13T09:26:28.785-08:00I love that ratio...it is important to bless other...I love that ratio...it is important to bless others with our words when we can. And it's a bonus when those words bless us back!Alida Sharphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07640849066159985893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-3663417201568940052012-01-13T09:19:36.608-08:002012-01-13T09:19:36.608-08:00Angelle--2:1 is certainly better than 1:1 or 0:1! ...Angelle--2:1 is certainly better than 1:1 or 0:1! I don't know the basis for the relationship study that concluded 4:1 is the magic ratio for successful relationships. However, a negative interaction can be very damaging and powerfully hurtful, so maybe it takes 4 positive interactions to overcome it and keep the balance on the positive side. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />JJ--Yes, just as well you missed it. It wasn't pretty. I was not in my happy place! But I'm back in it now. Thanks for commenting.<br /><br />Linda--People who are positive, like your neighbor and yourself, are a pleasure to be around. Our positive words and actions are contagious. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />darlin--The cycle of positive energy. That is exactly what it is. Every positive thing we do increases it. Thanks for your comment. Hope you have a good weekend, too. <br /><br />Irving--So true. This 4:1 principle could be practiced at all levels with global effects. Thanks for commenting.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-78388327754051085252012-01-13T05:40:01.682-08:002012-01-13T05:40:01.682-08:00Hi Galen,
That was a lovely story about Emily and...Hi Galen,<br /><br />That was a lovely story about Emily and her helpfulness. If only everyone were so helpful. <br /><br />The 4:1 rule does make perfect sense for successful relationships. Every time someone does me a good turn, I want to do them a good turn in return. And when they do me 4 good turns despite a negative interaction, I would feel pretty bad. If only this were practiced at a global level, things would be different won't it? Instead, countries practices tit for tat and make other countries nervous.<br /><br />It would be a good idea to build up a reservoir of good energy and good will around us. This will not only make others happy but benefit us in ways we could never imagine.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this lovely article!<br /><br />Irving the VizierThe Vizierhttp://hanofharmony.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-64911673708709171542012-01-13T01:11:39.155-08:002012-01-13T01:11:39.155-08:00I couldn't agree more Galen, when I send out p...I couldn't agree more Galen, when I send out positive energies and compliment others, or try to help others, it comes back 100 fold. I call it the cycle of positive energy, what goes around comes around. <br /><br />Have a fantastic weekend!darlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886502544010479581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-52409792789006075252012-01-12T18:34:47.283-08:002012-01-12T18:34:47.283-08:00I'm pretty good about positive comments. I ha...I'm pretty good about positive comments. I have a young neighbor who is, too, and I feel WONDERFUL when I hear them coming from here, so I'm assuming other people feel that way when they hear them from me.<br /><br />I hope.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-74408237443294994372012-01-12T16:53:18.061-08:002012-01-12T16:53:18.061-08:00Galen: You have a great life plan: I missed the or...Galen: You have a great life plan: I missed the original Tiger post, which is probably a good thing. I just read it. Purr.JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14692103477055483000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-33824821105929316632012-01-12T16:37:41.326-08:002012-01-12T16:37:41.326-08:00So true. I like your 4:1 ration -- my usual thoug...So true. I like your 4:1 ration -- my usual thought is that 2:1 is good. I'll work on that -- thanks!Angellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10863038386875513027noreply@blogger.com