tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post8303697533289386015..comments2023-11-03T06:56:05.537-07:00Comments on 10 Steps to Finding Your Happy Place (and Staying There): Dropping Our StoriesGalen Pearlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-50804606170721698792011-01-09T16:40:58.671-08:002011-01-09T16:40:58.671-08:00onemixedbag--Many of us do it out of habit. Payin...onemixedbag--Many of us do it out of habit. Paying attention will help us be more mindful so that we can develop a habit that supports our happiness.<br /><br />Elizabeth--Yes, exactly. Our stories that we tell ourselves come up in many situations, including those "what ifs...." <br /><br />Thanks to both of your for your comments.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-82297689190975054312011-01-09T08:17:40.032-08:002011-01-09T08:17:40.032-08:00Galen - This struck a chord with me. As you know,...Galen - This struck a chord with me. As you know, I've written a lot about how fear and the negative "what ifs..." tend to grab me and catch me off guard. But, you touched on something else here, the stories we complete when other people either don't respond to us or respond in a negative manner -- and we replay the scene over and over again. Writing the personal note--in a day and age when we so seldom send and receive personal letters was a wonderful way for you to reconnect and rewrite this story with your friend!Elizabeth Larynhttp://frommountaintops.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-56705236812172128912011-01-09T05:42:55.389-08:002011-01-09T05:42:55.389-08:00I do that all the time! I didn't realize that ...I do that all the time! I didn't realize that was what it was. "Oh, I didn't get an email back, she must be ignoring me. I didn't get a call back she must be mad"<br />I shall try to pay attention to this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-50012328022822059862011-01-08T07:52:47.031-08:002011-01-08T07:52:47.031-08:00JackSamMum--Fearful stories are certainly understa...JackSamMum--Fearful stories are certainly understandable when our children are sick or in danger. If any of these thoughts or techniques bring you support or comfort, then I am humbly pleased.Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-34238185296587336652011-01-07T19:27:52.131-08:002011-01-07T19:27:52.131-08:00Oh my goodness, this applies to so many things...a...Oh my goodness, this applies to so many things...as you know from my blog, I've been thinking negatively despite a mostly positive outlook because I am creating stories/scenarios in my head that are not healthy. I know I have a reason to fear a little, but if I can remember this post, it might begin to help me push unwarrented negative thoughts away.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06880295170339104548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-23061397985956566532011-01-07T17:56:24.163-08:002011-01-07T17:56:24.163-08:00Hi Galen,
I remember years ago when I first start...Hi Galen,<br /><br />I remember years ago when I first started to use the internet and chatted with people online, it was very easy for me to let my mind run while when people did not respond. I feared it was something I did or said that caused them to be displeased with me. This was made worse if the person who did not respond was a girl I liked. Ah the follies of youth. :P All my negative thoughts and my need for approval sent my mind into a tailspin. It took me sometime but I learned to realize that other people have their problems for not responding and it is not really a big deal. Nowadays even if people do not respond, I do not think too much of it. There are always other people who would respond that warrant my attention.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this post! It is a problem that many of us experienced from time to time. :)<br /><br />Irving the VizierIrving the Vizierhttp://hanofharmony.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-67976055425033672282011-01-07T12:09:50.065-08:002011-01-07T12:09:50.065-08:00Anonymous--It's an ongoing process, isn't ...Anonymous--It's an ongoing process, isn't it?!<br /><br />aneri_masi--Great question! See next post for an answer!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-64929282737648145402011-01-07T11:05:19.119-08:002011-01-07T11:05:19.119-08:00I do this all the time, and know I should not, but...I do this all the time, and know I should not, but have no idea how to stop. How to bring myself back to reality. Any help?aneri_masihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08363429426292603118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-75573419481720530202011-01-07T10:49:49.977-08:002011-01-07T10:49:49.977-08:00Great advice! My stories are often not mentally h...Great advice! My stories are often not mentally healthy, but I'm getting better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-27078350032811913442011-01-07T10:43:57.343-08:002011-01-07T10:43:57.343-08:00ryoko861--I know, it's such a human thing to d...ryoko861--I know, it's such a human thing to do. It's stunning to think how much distress we cause ourselves with our own stories!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-7395013385558580822011-01-07T10:41:42.377-08:002011-01-07T10:41:42.377-08:00Karen S--Well, I know it's true for me. So mu...Karen S--Well, I know it's true for me. So much of what I write is a reminder to myself!<br /><br />Alida--Your comment reminded me of a great quote about expectations from the book A Place of Hiding, by Elizabeth George. "Expectations destroy our peace of mind, don't they? They're future disappointments planned out in advance."<br /><br />msposhb--Welcome!Galen Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10189831838630645863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-69746980735757700252011-01-07T10:41:26.251-08:002011-01-07T10:41:26.251-08:00I get like that...self doubt. My imagination runs ...I get like that...self doubt. My imagination runs away thinking I said something wrong or stupid (I'm good for that). Then I let it go. I can't harbor on those things. I'd drive myself crazy. Usually I'll put it in the back of my brain and if I see the person again, I'll feel them out in conversation. If it seems like an issue, then I'll speak up. But other than that it's usually business as usual. Just my lack of self confidence in social situations.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-88035432971737964632011-01-07T08:29:11.466-08:002011-01-07T08:29:11.466-08:00so often we think it is all about us when the othe...so often we think it is all about us when the other person doesn't meet our expectations with their response. Thanks for the reminder that it's not!Alida Sharphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07640849066159985893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302107831896769514.post-71160878692801465202011-01-06T21:47:48.349-08:002011-01-06T21:47:48.349-08:00Oh yes that is one of my favorite quotes and so tr...Oh yes that is one of my favorite quotes and so true, don't you think? I know often I'll assume things that are so wrong, and wish I could stop and be more aware, but it's one of our human faults...thanks for sharing this important reminder!21 Witshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00071361755673253230noreply@blogger.com